Demoiselle in the dark
Identities are often confused with a close affinity with an institution, a social structure, an arena. Human, as a social animal, is metamorphized with ‘how a human supposed to be’. In this quarrel of ‘Being self’ and ‘satiating the needs of society’, the one that suffers to an extend is a woman. Why a woman is a sufferer because a society, I’m sorry to mention, but if a ‘Patriarchal society’, suffers ‘A’, then, a woman has to suffer ‘A’ and ‘B’. To keep my thoughts lucid and simple, for a woman, there is always a difficulty, trouble, a rivalry to find ‘Self’ as she from the initial days of her lives, generally, been taught to ‘say yes’ to everything, ‘to agree to everything’. She can’t say ‘No’ because she does not have any right to exist or live the way she wants to. So, I, being an overthinker, an intrigue, maybe, an eavesdropper and definitely a perspicacious, ask a question to myself. Is ‘identity’ not self? So, you may also think about it!
A woman struggles for her ‘self’ every day, at least in my opinion! and identity? Well, that’s all societal. The rivalry between ‘Identity’ and ‘Self’ is always a struggle. So, how many identities do we have to create to be ourselves? and if, identities are not that important, then why can’t we just ‘WE’!
So, what exactly a woman is? Is she a mother, a daughter, a wife, a homemaker, a professional or is it just she? Why can’t a woman be nothing but she?! In a society, where she needs to get married to have support, she, every day, struggles to be just ‘She’. Does she have a name? A name which she longs to acquire. Well, in the land of Goddesses, where a woman figure is praised to be a god, is the same, where every year thousands and thousands of women struggle from an ‘Identity crisis syndrome’. The role of a woman in the world is always an everlasting concern of dispute. The dispute generally arises from ‘gender inequality’. The disparity in thoughts of a society where a man is considered to be the upper financial support system of the family, not to mention, “Head of the family”, in this modern era, no matter how mature, how educated a woman is, the cliches still exist. Women, considered to be the softer sex, of the society, is often misunderstood to be a burden and nothing beyond that. Where a ‘Demoiselle’, naturally, has wings to fly high, she is forced to grapple in the dark!
